Discussing Sex with Real Life Examples Part 2
In the beginning I will state some real life examples followed by certain conclusions.
Example 1 and 2 are in my previous article (Part 1) https://discussingsex.medium.com/discussing-sex-2-real-life-examples-b94fc2480fa5
Example 3: The Unclean Penis
Finally during the night , things start getting really hot and heavy. Both of them get wild. Girl starts to go down slowly .And gets turned off the moment she pulls his shorts. The girl could smell a bad urine odour. The girl keeps hinting at freshening up in a subtle way but the guy doesn’t understand. The boy requests the girl to start giving him oral sex and finally loses his temper. In the end the girl gets up and leaves. And the boy doesn’t respond to her whatsapp texts when they both reach home.
Here is my conclusion:
1. Most probably the guy could not really catch her subtle hints and it’s rare that people get offended when directly asked to clean up.
2.In such situations one can always say this (as if it is a part of the seduction process)
“I can’t wait to get on you, go freshen up a bit and trust me I’ll make it worthwhile” .
Rarely anyone will ever complain and it is a very mature way to handle the situation.
3.Showering together is also a good option. But if it is too intimate to shower together and you can’t handle it then use point number 2.
4.Even the last minute before having oral sex the genitals must be clean.
Example 4 : Am I a father or a Boyfriend?
“My girlfriend never got much time to spend with her father since her childhood. We both are in our 20s. She rather behaves as a spoiled child. I pay all the bills. Even after begging for 4 years she did not care enough to get a driver’s licence and I have to drop her wherever she goes.
I do all the housework like laundry, cooking ,cleaning and even maintenance. Yes, all of them.
Although she agrees to help me out sometimes when asked for, she remains upset for the rest of the day after that .
She never eats fruits and vegetables and is always fond of eating unhealthy stuff. Although very gentle by nature, she skips all the responsibilities. I Always fear what’s going to happen if I were to die tomorrow. Not only that, I am completely unsatisfied even sexually. We have sex only once or twice a month. I am the one who always initiates sex. On some occasion she does agree for sex but only out of pity. I always feel depressed and like a selfish idiot for wanting sex.”
-Submitted by Anonymous
Here is my conclusion:
1.Sometimes people take others for granted unknowingly. So in this case set the boundaries and equally divide the time among yourself for the household work.
2. Leaving or walking away from a relationship should be the last option.
3. Make an excuse(without fighting) that you will be away for a month or week from her due to some emergency purposes and she will have to live all by herself, this should make her realise all her misdeeds.
4. Taking your girlfriend to see a therapist is also an option to consider (sometimes these things happen due to deep psychological issues in a person).
5. Such things have the possibility of developing into severe traumas for both the partners , so take care of yourself as well.
6.In some situations you may have to openly and directly warn your partner about all their misdeeds.
My dear friend thanks for reading and if possible kindly let me know your feedback. I’ll be posting new articles almost everyday.
Part 1 : https://discussingsex.medium.com/discussing-sex-2-real-life-examples-b94fc2480fa5
